Editorial note: "I want to nourish my child but I don't want to live with him" is a regret in the hearts of many 50 generations. Denny, 63, feels that her 90-year-old parents are getting older and healthy, and their health is not as go...
Editorial note: "I want to nourish my child but I don't want to live with him" is a regret in the hearts of many 50 generations. Denny, 63, feels that her 90-year-old parents are getting older and healthy, and their health is not as good as before. She decides to retire early and travel with her father and mother, and seize the precious time that she can still accompany her. He said that if a doctor treats illness, his family is a habit, and travel is the best company and memory. "In fact, what I do is not just travel, but like the name of the fan page. I hope that because of my company and being with each other, I can leave a happy time in their lives." Denny, who established the fan page "Funlife with my dad and mother", shared many of the simulations of them traveling together across Taiwan on his face.
Denny's father is 93 years old (2022), who had heart surgery many years ago. His 85-year-old mother suffered from ovarian cancer five years ago and is still following the stage. Feeling that his parents' health cannot wait, he decided to retire early when he is less than 60 years old to change his time with his parents.
"To accompany the elderly to walk around more often, in addition to being able to move their bodies appropriately and reduce their loneliness, doctors can cure diseases, but having the love of their family is a mood disorder," said Denny.
When traveling with elderly people with mobility inconvenience, what aspects should be paid attention to in terms of food, clothing, housing and transportation?
Seeing that my parents are always in their old age, I don’t want to have regretsThe time jumps back to 7 years ago. Denny, who was 56 years old, had a chance to meet her father before she retired, mostly routine dinners or parties during the holidays and birthdays. There were not many opportunities to meet on weekdays, let alone traveling together.
However, after entering middle age, Denny gradually began to die with some family friends and colleagues on the field. "According to my mother-in-law, she gradually became dementia at the age of 70, and the days she would have to spend in the care home. What happens in life is unpredictable. As people get older, they don't know how many years they can live healthy."
"At that time, the chief officer and colleague I actually hope that I will be at least 60 years old, but I think it is difficult for me to accompany my father and mother while working at the same time. I don’t want to wait until I retire to be with them at the hospital bed, but to create a memory together when they are still healthy. For me, I also want to start a third life early. "
There are many things that I can’t do, and this is even more so for my father’s health and the relationship between them. "To express your love for your parents, you must be as soon as possible. So I decided to leave the job early and become a "love volunteer." Denny laughed.
There are secrets to travel, food, clothing, housing and transportation arrangements for elderly people with mobility difficultiesDenny said that when their parents just retired and their physical condition was still good, they also like to travel around the country and abroad. When they are free, they will also walk around the nearby suburbs and hiking trails, which are people who know how to arrange their lives.
"But when my father and mother passed by 70 years ago, they gradually realized that their activity and physical condition were not as good as before. Especially after I retired, because I had more time, the feeling was even stronger. Once the elderly's body began to decline, they were aging. The speed is really fast. ”
In addition to cancer, Denny's mother was unable to stand for a long time and walked for more than 5 minutes because of her sagging spine. Most of the time, she had to rely on a wheelchair when she was outside. Her father had some deterioration in his ears and vision, and she was not very stable when walking. How to arrange a trip if you have two tycoons who are not very convenient to move?
He thought of the following important principles and precautions:
1. The itinerary is planned for one-day or half-day trips. The key point is to give the elder a feeling of "going out for a walk". Too many attractions or the distance is too far away, which may be a burden to the body.
2. There should be a rest point for parking in the middle of the journey
If the trip is a little longer, remember that stopping at appropriate times can allow the growth to get off the car and go to the bathroom, and at most no more than one and a half hours to allow the growth to take a break.
3. When preparing personal medicine, supplies and clothing, most of the long-term patients need to take medicine for chronic diseases. In addition to the medications that are usually fixed, you must also bring white water as a medicine and replenish water. Clothes are easy to wear and move, and prepare warm jackets to prevent the weather from changing temperature.
4. When arranging meals, you should have regular and regular doses. The elders may have problems with unstable blood sugar. Unlike young people who don’t have a meal. In addition to planning meal time and restaurant lists in advance, you should also prepare some emergency snacks. You can first suck your stomach when needed. The choice of external food should not be too heavy oil and heavy.
When moving, Denny will be suitable for the father to hold the mother's wheel chair. "This is not to say that we are unfilial and abuse the elderly, but because my father usually walks with a walker, and pushing the wheel chair can help you."
"When I arrange the attractions, I pay special attention to safety, convenience and hygiene. For example, if the road is difficult to walk under the foot, the facilities or services are not perfect, or if the food is not too clean, it may not be suitable." In order to make the journey more complete and full, Denny is willing to visit the venue before actually setting off to explore it, and also understand what attractions, restaurants, shops and other rest points along the way are available..
In order to facilitate personal supplies and keep the itinerary flexible at any time, Denny is used to bring two old people out on the car, "but if the health and movement are allowed, there is no problem for the public to travel."
The re-remembering trip makes me feel that my father and mother regain their childlike heartAs for where do they like to go? Denny said that in addition to some seasonal natural beauty, such as various flower seasons and autumnal photography, the elders actually like the location where "they have had a memory back."
It is like the Zuojian military village where I lived when I was a child, I worked or lived when I was young, or a place where I was very impressed. Old replays evoke their past memories and naturally talk about the young things, "I only then did I know a lot of my little secrets about my dad that I have never heard of before."
As soon as a group of people drove through a scenic area, Denny's mother suddenly pointed to the stop sign on the road and said thoughtfully, "Once, your dad and I came here to play, but we missed the bus. We waited here for more than an hour."
He also noticed that parents on the trip sometimes seemed to be returning to their children's innocence, and would hum songs as the street artists played. Once, the father joked and pushed his mother's chair and chased the dung on the road. "You can feel that they are really happy and enjoyable, and I think all the hard work is worth it."
"To me, taking your dad and mother out together is not at the destination, but enjoying that process." Sometimes the elderly don't even need to travel wherever they really "travel", even if they just walk around casually, they will be satisfied.
Recently, Denny would take his two old men to the hospital for a medical treatment and go back to the clinic, and then go for afternoon tea, or take a walk in the suburbs and parks nearby. "Just like a child gives him a piece of sugar after taking medicine, over time, they will not be admitted to the hospital, but will feel expectant."
Traveling with a long journey not only helps to regulate the mood, but also makes them care more about their health. Especially after more than two months of caring for cancer mothers, they became "very high-cooperation" leaders, "because they know that they need to be healthy to have the ability to go out and play."
As the main caregiver of parents, Denny said, of course, there will be times of fatigue and fatigue. "If I feel that I'm not in good physical strength or mood, I'll choose to take a break for two days. If I have a stinky face or the heart is not there, it's really better not to put myself and the other party. The original intention of accompanying my father is to make them happy."
However, there is only one thing that doesn't change: even on days when I'm not traveling, Denny has developed a habit of catching up with his mother on video and phone calls every night at 9 pm. In addition to talking about the daily affairs of this day, we also made sure that the two old people were in a good state.
"Every time you do more now, you will lose a little regret in the future." With this feeling, Denny and his father and mother continued to travel and live together, with each drop of love and memory.
Original text: Travel with your 90-year-old dad and mother! Denny: Parents are old and don’t wait until they are in front of the hospital bed
