A female netizen recently broke the news in the commune that she denounced her husband and her husband's family for their bad treatment. No matter in the middle and late stages of pregnancy, she had never received any concerns, but instead would...
A female netizen recently broke the news in the commune that she denounced her husband and her husband's family for their bad treatment. No matter in the middle and late stages of pregnancy, she had never received any concerns, but instead would make the money more. In general, the poor relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has caused the daughter-in-law to be in a difficult situation. However, with the cold words of her husband, especially when she was pregnant, her husband not only did not take care of and care, but even went to the market to buy dried buns, buns, water and noodles, and "let her get hungry and eat them myself." The post was published, which caused netizens to be angry about these behaviors.
Repents I did not insist on divorce at the beginningThe whistleblower said, "I regret that I did not insist on divorce at the beginning." She even regretted that she should not get married at all, because of the following kinds of ruthless treatments:
{999 9}1. He came to my house to ask for a marriage certificate, and his mother said that she would not collect a bride fee, but also gave 100,000 yuan to marry.
2. He said that my mother was young and only gave her 100,000 wedding gifts, and took my wedding gifts to buy things, and said that his father and mother gave his sister 300,000 wedding gifts.
3. In the first year after marriage, my mother-in-law said that she would not go back to her parents' home in the second year of junior high school, and my two daughters wanted to come back.
4. His third sister said why is my brother's face so red? It was you yelled!
5. The next year I got pregnant. After my mother-in-law learned the news, she kept saying that boys and girls are good, and it is best for men.
6. During pregnancy, my mother-in-law loves me the most, what I used to be?…
7. During pregnancy, if you want to eat special food, he would still say that it looks like a haunted house. Don’t eat it here?
8. During pregnancy, the mother-in-law only says what she wants to eat, what is it called? What will a person with such a good meal buy? Costco's bakes and soaked noodles with dried buns and water, so I asked me to eat them myself.
9. During pregnancy, he bought all the blood sugar machine, baby bed, and car safety seats he needed. I said he should not dig a hole and jump for my mother, so he said he was joking (I said it very angry).
10. My mother kindly bought a pack of NB paper pisses that I helped, and when she got home, she complained why I didn’t ask my mother to buy a box.
11. After Xuezi was born, she did not hug her mother-in-law (it wasn't that she didn't hug her mother-in-law, but when her mother-in-law hugged my son, my son burst into tears immediately) The mother-in-law said that your mother didn't want you, you don't want to see your mother…
12. When she went to the confinement center to see her mother, she didn't care about me, but asked me why her son had a pregnancy record? Did I do something during pregnancy?
13. He said that his son's skin and hair look like me, but his mother-in-law immediately said that how could he look like Xiaoling?
14. After the child was born, I was given only 6,000 yuan per month, and I also had to include his breakfast. Because he had all eaten breakfast, I felt sorry for him once and bought breakfast and put it on the table to wait for him to wake up and eat it. After that, I got …... (My body became natural).
15. I was forced to have a baby for the first time after marriage, so the residents of the entire community knew about it.
16. Go to the accountant office to handle the baby's birth registration, and ask the politician on the spot whether the childbirth assistance can be transferred to his accountant.
17. When the child was 2 months old, he was sick for the first time. He just wanted to ask him for a break from him for a while and actually asked me to coax the child to sleep.
18. After less than 10 minutes of sleep, my son's stomach became hungry. He asked him to soak milk. He actually said that it was more important than his son, and said that he would soak it after he finished the beating.
19.6000 includes my life sales, such as motor oil, gasoline, eating, drinking and having fun, girls' cotton, everything you think of.
20. One day, for 200, I shouted loudly to me.
21. Once I had a three-day greeting, and the clinic doctor said that I wanted me to go to the hospital for examination. It was not mastitis. When my mother-in-law found out, she said that I just didn’t feed my breast milk, so she got sick, unlike her five breast milk.
22. After half a year of birth, my mother-in-law asked me to lose weight and to give me a good banquet, and told his son that the banquet would not be paid for it, because the Taipei people are generous and the Jinmen people are petty (he is from Jinmen).
23. Ask me to carry my little son back to my parents' home to have a red bag.
24. Add another one. When the child is born, he needs diaper milk powder. When he has to pay, he says that the child is the one I want to give birth to. Now he still wants to pay the supervision …..
Have you seen clearly before marriage that your husband is a human being?The whistleblower gets only 6,000 yuan from his husband every month. Many netizens do not worry about whether the husband is like this because of his limited income. However, it is actually that his husband's income is more than 70,000-80,000 yuan per month, which is already beyond the income level of ordinary office workers. Moreover, the whistleblower actually didn't have the opportunity to meet her husband's family before getting married, and he quickly got married without knowing his husband's condition.
Marriage is a big event in the end. Although we cannot say that we must be sure to ensure that the marriage will be happy and beautiful, we should not let ourselves fall into a desperate situation, especially in the end, the biggest pain point for women is their children. In order to provide the child with a complete family, we should choose to compromise or escape. Before deciding to step into the ceremony with your partner, you can think carefully about the following 4 points:
1. What is your own way out?
For many women, marriage is just a way for them to extricate social pressure, family and fear of becoming "no marriage leftover women". Some people also want to leave their original family for some reason, and marriage is the main way to leave.. However, we should know that a happy marriage requires not only love, but also requires two people to have sufficient maturity and sense of responsibility, and tolerate each other, and to work together to run their own small family.
So, if the reason for marriage is not due to love, but from various escapes, then should you determine if the way out of marriage is another dilemma, do you still have another way out?
2. Is the other party the right person?
He just treats you well, but everyone around you …...Did he treat it the same way? You should know that the real side of a person cannot be observed during the interaction period. When you are familiar with people, people will naturally reveal their emotional expressions. His way of getting along with his friends, female friends and female colleagues can help you to think about the situation that will come to you.
In addition, when talking about your ex-girlfriend, his attitude can help you understand him better. If he seems to be telling them, maybe you should think about this more carefully.
3. How much do you know about the other party’s family background?
Observe how his father treats his mother, because he may become a copy of his father. Therefore, before getting married, you have to find an opportunity to visit the other party’s home, try to get along with your future husband’s family, increase your relationship with your two parties, and also have a clearer understanding of the relationship between the other party and your family.
The impact of the original family cannot be ignored, but it is also necessary to be clear that the two people will decide how to create a new life for themselves. This requires high awareness and consultation with each other to achieve the ultimate common sense.
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4. What should and should not be done?
What should be done: express each other clearly about marriage expectations, discuss important issues such as childbirth, sex and finance before marriage; understand the other party’s family because it will help you better understand his personality; promise to be satisfied with your choice; even in the worst situation, he will have a way to make you laugh, which is the person you can rely on, because humor and stress relief are factors that promote marriage relationships.
Things should not be done: marry someone you don't have feelings for, hoping to change him; ignore the problems related to violence, jealousy and selfishness that occur during the relationship, because the situation will become worse after marriage; when too many problems occur in the relationship between the two people, you have been hesitant about whether to end the relationship, please believe your straightforwardness and emotion.
