"Don t let yourself get hurt"! What should I do when facing people who lack empathy?

【Text, Pictures/Selected from the publication of "I Don't Want to Be a Good Man Always", author Park Min-gen]

What should I do when facing people who lack empathy?

Junji successfully found a good job after graduating from a prestigious university. He was only happy for less than a few days. Unexpectedly, after entering the company, Hong Tong, as his boss, was troubled by him all day long, making him sit and stand stubborn every day. He didn't know why Group Hong wanted to tell him. It would be fine if he was like another colleague who was so angry that he had divorced. At least that colleague knew that he had a bad temper. Every time he got angry, everyone knew to endure it. However, Group Hong was different. He was not angry and always said something unreasonable, such as: "You don't have a girlfriend, where can you go to play on Sunday? Come and work overtime! I will also come to work overtime, how about it? Fair, right? Work with me and work unfinished work."

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Chief Hong often uses communication software to explain his work late at night or early morning, or asks him to do his private affairs. He lacks empathy and does not know how to think about changing positions. However, the company's high-level company trusts him very much and believes that he is good at doing things, so Junji feels even more dissatisfied.

"That's what it means to do? And someone is willing to marry him! I'm almost in trouble with this kind of psychological change, so why should his wife stay with him day and night!"

Junji was still fine before entering the company, but now she has reached the point of suffering from depression. He questioned whether the problem was because his personality was too good, so he decided to accept counseling and testing, and then he realized that his condition was already on the verge of depression.

The so-called psychological change is a mental illness. The patient has no empathy for the pain or worry of others, so it is also called "zero deg re s o f empathy". A higher proportion of successful people exists. According to a survey in the UK, psychological changes account for about one% of the population, but the number of patients among CEOs of large enterprises is as high as three• five%, a full three• five times higher. Although Group Chief Hong is not a psychological change, he does not really lack empathy. So I asked Junki to do self-expression training, don't care about what others think, just express your feelings and thoughts as much as possible. After about a month or so, he was finally able to counterattack Group Hong.

One day, Junji's plan won a big praise at the company meeting, and the Hong Group began to have a lot of branches after the meeting. "I said, the relevant information about your consumer trend analysis seems to be unreliable!" Chief Hong asked.

Jun-ki had already come here, and he said seriously: "Everyone said it, it seems that you are the only one who doesn't agree with it. If you really think it's unreliable, why don't you come and watch it yourself?"

He always calculated his temper and was very happy, and he wanted to take a picture of the expression of Chief Hong at that time and show it to me. It was difficult to sleep well that night, and since that time he made several deliberate retaliation.

Kindness has a bottom line, and occasionally we should also respond to

When facing people who lack empathy, we must express our feelings more strongly so that they can accept them. Even if they may not understand, at least they can remind themselves not to commit again if they receive it.

Not long after, the petty Hong Tong Chang changed his temperament like a person, and he began to look at Jun Ki-cha, but his personality was still the same as before.

Sometimes in the job field, they are injured by being rude by people who lack empathy. These people do not know how to understand the other person's feelings and lack the ability to think in a position, which makes the people around them particularly tired. However, usually they are not malicious.

"Is this so simple, isn't it enough to do it at will?" You can observe their expressions and they say that this is not the case because they have not considered other people's feelings.

In fact, psychological changes are not without a little sympathy, but asking them to start empathy is a very cost-effective thing, just like a person who is not interested in or talented in titular paintings. If you want him to spend hours reading the paintings, he will definitely complain about the world. If it is not the psychological change that is serious to cure, those bosses, colleagues, and subordinates who make us suffer usually have empathy, but you just need to stimulate their "common brain feeling".

To protect yourself, you must know how to step on a car. You can say this:

"Team leader, you say this, making me feel wronged as a subordinate."

"Children, what you say makes sense, but you also have to care about the mood of others."

"Director, even if he is a newcomer, he should not teach him so seriously."

Don't worry about being too straightforward, because they are less hit than you think.

In short, your accumulated courage will be able to develop the power to improve the way each other and make the other more understanding.

Nothing is necessary, and you are worthy of injury

You will meet bad people everywhere you go, there are naturally bad people, bad mentality, lack of empathy and hurt people without knowing it; the worst thing is that it is good for everyone, but only to you is bad for you. If it's just a personal relationship, it's best to leave this person as quickly as possible, because no one can change this personality except for a psychotherapist. If they could really change, their parents or partners would have done it long ago.

The more problematic is the friendship on the job. At this time, you can adopt Junji's approach, muster up the courage to express your own opinions, and build a solid protective cover for yourself.. Don't give up and tell the other party about your discomfort and mood. You don't need to be too wronged, because he must have heard other people's words, so your frank words will only make him feel that "I will be more cautious in the future." Even if he hates you, you will not become the worst situation.

To find a balance in complex international relationships and protect yourself from harm, you must know that when people are blocking you, you must be brave enough to stand up and defend yourself. When you can't escape, face it. Even if you can't end up, you should try it when you fight. Many things in life are not accurate, and there may be a war-torn reversal like Li Sun-sen leading the army.

The key point is that you must protect your heart. If your heart is injured, it will affect your work, love, and relationships. The most important thing is yourself. Therefore, in the world of evil international relations, the first thing to consider is "don't hurt yourself."